Finding Happiness

Our Expectations Of The World

From this week's newsletter - For many of us, the challenges of life become far more deeply engrained in our minds as troubles, because in the background there is a secret assumption that the world should make us happy. If you don’t act the way I want, do what I think you should do, or if things don’t go exactly how I wanted them to go - if the assumption is that you or the world should make me happy - then I will suffer.

Comparison - The Killer Of Joy

Comparison - The Killer Of Joy

We usually have unconsious reasons for doing things. Comparing yourself and your life to other people’s for example, is probably a habit of ours as we think we can assess ourselves or how well we are doing. It is how we are used to gauging how good or bad we are, or how good or bad our life is...

Can I Bring Acceptance Into A Job I Do Not Like?

Can I Bring Acceptance Into A Job I Do Not Like?

Hi Adam,

Love your books and online meditations. They have helped me accept the anxiety or "feeling" as I now call it as its easier to accept that way.

One question I have and I think I already know the answer is. I am in a job I dislike, the job itself is fine but it's a desk job and feels wrong to be sitting at a desk for 7 hours a day. I have tried to accept it but find it difficult. Is the next step to accept the resistance to the job?

How To Be Happy - Resistance Is What Hurts

How To Be Happy - Resistance Is What Hurts

What hurts is the resistance. If you had a thought of something bad, what makes it seem offensive or disturbing is the fact that another energy inside contracts and tries to push back against it. If you are experiencing thoughts you don’t like, what makes it feel bad is the resistance to them, calling the thoughts bad, believing that they should not be there...

A Rest From Chasing

A Rest From Chasing

One of the biggest hidden agonies of the human experience is the need or the desire for the present experience to be different. We often have a background feeling of “my current experience is somehow not enough, it needs to be different in some way”, and this manifests as many different desires and intentions to make us feel better, to take away the background sense of unease or discontentment...