When you feel as if you are trying to pick and choose between what kinds of experience you want and don’t want, like and dislike, then you will probably find yourself in conflict with experience, with thoughts, with situations, with mind. Rather than gunning for silence over noise, peace over conflict, pleasure over pain, joy over misery, see how it feels to embrace both sides of the polarities, rather than just trying to get one of them. Embrace both, don’t distinguish between either, and see where you are.