Do you ever remember being told, “Oh, don’t cry,” or “oh, don’t be upset,” “cheer up,” or anything else similar? People can often mean well, because they do not want to see you in any kind of discomfort, but these kinds of advice set the foundation for a constant inner conflict.
If you are crying, let yourself cry until you are empty.
If you are upset, be so upset that there is no alternative.
If you can’t seem to stop thinking, then let yourself keep thinking until you explode.
If you feel no good, then collapse into the feeling and be destroyed there.
Then what you were always told was so bad, that you must keep at bay, becomes your liberator.