Emotional Wellness

The Need To Be Liked

The Need To Be Liked

A few weeks ago I shared a few words on TwitterFacebook and Instagram. They said:

"Think about how much you’ll care what others think of you when you’re dead, or when they’re dead. Then carry on."

If we are liked, we tend to feel safer. We feel as if we are a more valuable part of a group, and if we are more valuable, we are less likely to be in danger…

Not Resisting Emotions Or Thinking Positively?

Not Resisting Emotions Or Thinking Positively?

For example, letting yourself feel annoyed is far more helpful than hating yourself for feeling annoyed or fighting your own annoyance. If we give ourselves permission to feel however we are feeling rather than condemning the feelings, then suddenly there is some more space, the feelings don't seem quite so harsh or heavy, and the suffering decreases….

Pain Body In Social Situations

Pain Body In Social Situations

I mostly encounter my painbody in interaction with other people, for example when communication gets tense or someone talks to me in an angry way, that seems to trigger old pain immediately and my 'harmed ego' shoots into reaction. Mostly that leads to a reaction from the other party and things can then easily escalate.

How To Deal With Regret

How To Deal With Regret

This week I thought I would share something on dealing with regret, inspired by a quote from my children's book "A Tale Of Two Ninja Kids: A Martial Arts Adventure Story".

In the book, one of the main characters, Martin, questions his ninja master on how someone can deal with regrets in life...

Why Fear Is Your Best Friend

Why Fear Is Your Best Friend

These days fear can get a bad name. Be fearless. Don’t be afraid. Fear holds you back. Fear is an illusion. “We have nothing to fear but fear itself.”

If you make fear your enemy, you will always be in a battle with it. If you realise it is your friend, if you realise that its whole intention is actually to keep you safe and away from any possible pain, then suddenly fear becomes this energy that you realise is full of power. All that matters is our relationship to it...

How To Stop Being Rushed By Others

How To Stop Being Rushed By Others

Whether you are at work, with friends, with family, or just standing in line at the supermarket, some of us can not only be very aware of our surroundings and how other people feel, but also allow other people's feelings or frustrations to push us into acting in a way that is unnatural for us. Hopefully this article can give you some tips on how to resolve this, and stop being unnecessarily rushed or hurried by others...