During a recent group Zoom meeting for inner peace, someone began asking about how to move out of negative self-stories. This led to a response about the mind ultimately seeking some sense of existence or security, and how this sense of security could be accessed directly in a much more enjoyable way. Then there is a segment about inner peace - how you can treat it as an infinite and abundant energy that is constantly around you and flowing through you, and you are either noticing it, or not...
Do you ever feel as if you have become anti-thought? As if thoughts are bad and shouldn't be there? Sometimes we can accidentally pick up attitudes against our own minds that don't serve us very well. I hope you find the video helpful…
For example, letting yourself feel annoyed is far more helpful than hating yourself for feeling annoyed or fighting your own annoyance. If we give ourselves permission to feel however we are feeling rather than condemning the feelings, then suddenly there is some more space, the feelings don't seem quite so harsh or heavy, and the suffering decreases….
Sometimes there can be so many rules and "shoulds" about meditation that it can be easy to miss what you are really looking for. The tip in this video might help you to bypass years of strenuous practice and go straight to where you really want to be. I hope it helps.
This week's video is a book reading from one of my books - "Undisturbed: A Guide To Emotional Wellness"...
Grounding is a great way to reconnect the energy of your body with the earth, and give your mind a rest from constant thinking. This meditation is ideal if you find it hard to fall asleep, if you want to wake up gently, or if you need a reconnection to some power during the day. Also great to let go of any stress...
A recent question was asked about dealing with someone who always expects you to do things for them with nothing in return. I hope my response is useful for anyone else dealing with a similar thing. How to deal with negative family members is easiest when...
I have started a new animation channel on YouTube, sharing similar themes and messages that you will find on this site. It's called "Wisdom Sticks", and the first video of many is about how to calm your mind...
People might be asking how to let go of the past, how to let go of the future, how to let go of emotions, how to let go of thoughts, how to let go of anger, how to let go of pain, how to let go of someone you love, or how to let go of things that you feel are holding you back.
The simple question to ask, is whether these thoughts/feelings or the habit of clinging, is actually helping you. Does thinking about the situation that makes you angry, resolve the situation? Does being unhappy improve your life? Does the constant mental noise create good things? Does holding onto someone psychologically actually bring healing to any relationship?
Are you sure which is the right way to feel?
How does it feel to not know how your mind should be, what emotions should be going on?
How does it feel to not know how to feel?
I highly recommend this video for anyone interested in general wellbeing. If you go along with the breathing exercise early in the vid, you might be surprised...
People often write to me saying that they can't seem to let go of resistance to their own thoughts or emotions. So things become much more uncomfortable.
"How can I stop resisting if I can't stop resisting?"
Jerry was a strange boy, no one could understand him. His parents had known there was something wrong with him from a young age. He was seventeen now, and some people were still uncomfortable with it...
A common question I get asked is how to let go of inner resistance to one's own thoughts, emotions and feelings. People seem to have glimpses of freedom, only for resistance to return, and apparently become unshakeable. If this is something that rings true for you, this guided meditation may help.
One of the biggest underlying causes of social anxiety can be the belief or feeling that a certain outcome will mean that "I" will die. Not physically, but psychologically.
If the whole room is judging you in a certain way, or laughing at you for something, it is easy to feel as if you are shrinking down to nothing without your old identity to rely on anymore. We feel as if something like that will mean we will lose who we are, as if we are dying in some way. And that can be scary...
There are those who will laugh at you.
Let them laugh.
There are those who will hate you.
Let them hate.
There are those who will worry about you.
Let them worry.
There are those who will not like to see you succeed.
Let them.
There are those who will love you.
Let them...
Rather than condemning our negative feelings or thoughts, what happens when we accept them in their totality, so that we are no longer addicted to one end of the emotional spectrum?
But when light is shone on to it, it starts to cry and fry and it trembles and rebels, and when you love it and welcome it, it starts to vomit and shake.
It can not stand love, it can not stand being loved and being seen as futile all at the same time...
If we carry around the idea that thoughts are bad, then we will always feel as if we are engaged in battle with them. The thoughts in themselves, are as they are. It is only thought that describes them as good or bad. In themselves, when they are non resisted, they lose their meaning and their polarities...
When we trust our own thoughts to be the complete truth of things, then thought can become a ruling monster. If we see that thoughts are not the full reality, that they are only attempts to understand the world, not actually anything to do with what is being interpreted, then there is some space, some freedom...
In the idea of trying to be spiritual or egoless, people can suppress their natural desires and flows. Let yourself want something, rather than trying to suppress the desire, and see what happens...
Leaves are like human beings.
Each one is intricate, delicate, unique.
If you look closely, it is like each leaf has its own character,
its own style,
its own look.
But if you don’t look closely, they are just leaves.
Take a step back, and they are not individuals.
They are all part of the tree...
If you find yourself dealing with hatred and it has become too much to bear, this page on how to deal with hatred might help...
Well, what is a negative body image? A thought. It is not your body, it is a thought ABOUT the body that is believed, perhaps supported by other humans and then regarded as real.
It is likely that if you had not grown up in this particular society, you would not have any kind of negative body image in your mind. It is a kind of programming, a kind of conditioning to judge certain shapes as bad and others as good.
A common question seems to be “If I am present, if I am PRESENCE, then what about progress in life, what about ambition, how do I lead a full life if I am already at peace, not wanting so many things any more?"
My response is this...
If you are looking to feel joy or love, experiment by no longer looking to find it anywhere as a thing that you can get. When we no longer believe that joy or love is outside of ourselves, somewhere in events or people, then it is easier discover what we are made of...
If your life situation is not how you would ideally like it to be, feeling grateful can be difficult because we are conditioned resist what we don’t like so that we may one day get what we do like. We are rarely taught to live vibrationally.
If we believe we need a REASON to feel grateful, for some people they feel as if they have far more good reasons to feel thoroughly ungrateful.
Forgiveness can be made easier through asking yourself the question:
"If I was able to forgive or let go of this - then how would I feel?"
If you ask the question and feel for the response, and repeat this inner experiment, eventually you might reach a point where you are experiencing the freedom of forgiveness, without ever making the step to forgive and let go.
I hope this video helps in making forgiveness easier, which was taken from a one-to-one session with me.