Recently during a one-to-one session I was asked about what to do if you experience feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness. The person I was speaking with felt as if they needed to achieve something in order to feel complete.
While achievements are great, the feeling of worthiness or completeness or satisfaction does not have to be tied to it. Whenever you achieve something and feel good, the achievement isn't injecting you with any positive feelings. In that moment you simply allow yourself to be free from the resistance you had against your own worthiness or well-being, and so the feeling of satisfaction is experienced within you. A moment of acceptance and appreciation feels great – fear and a sense of lack disappears – and you feel good as you connect with the truest part of yourself.
You don't need to wait for an achievement to feel happy or joyful or even satisfied. These are all energies that you are either allowing or resisting in some way. As we get taught over the years that happiness or a sense of well-being is conditional, we move from being happy and carefree to gradually more and more in a "waiting" state - waiting for the next thing to make us feel good, believing that if we remain in some form of resistance, then we will be better equipped to stay safe or get what we want.
Of course life is full of things that can make you feel good. But when you start to take charge of that yourself on an inner level, then you enjoy everything more, you are more receptive to good ideas, and as a result action becomes more inspired and things are even easier to achieve.
To start realising that your sense of worthiness or well-being does not have to be based on what you think you have achieved, try the simple game of “How would it feel?”
Take five minutes to ask yourself what it would be like to feel however you wanted.
For example:
How would it feel to feel satisfied?
How would it feel to feel worthy?
How would it feel to feel accomplished?
How would it feel to feel free?
Then allow a response from within.
The mind might resist at first with things like: "How can you feel accomplished if you haven't accomplished anything?" This is all part of the game. A mind conditioned in the value of struggle or resistance might not like to experience the opposite at first. As you play the game, you will start to realise your inner world is your own, it can be unconditional, and as you allow yourself to experience these more empowering energies, the more your external life will take on a new freshness and power as a result.
Try it out. Give it just a few minutes at a time. And treat it as a game.
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All the very best,
Adam