Hello everyone,
I hope this article helps to give you a quick and easy method for how to deal with negative thoughts and a negative mind, allowing you to access a part of your mind that can actually give rise to positive and empowering thoughts.
During a recent one-to-one call with me, someone was mentioning that their mind would often become negative. Even if they were doing something creative that they enjoyed, their mind would come in with negative thoughts of:
“You shouldn’t be wasting your time with this. You should be doing something more valuable that is more likely to bring you money.”
The result was that this person was discouraged in their activity, and when they stopped, they didn’t do anything else constructive. That was it.
A negative mind can of course come in all kinds of forms. It can appear as worrying about something, or being down on yourself about something.
Negative thoughts tend to take hold on us because we subconsciously believe that they will help us in some way. Perhaps in our lives if we have been sad enough or upset enough, someone else has come and given us help, special attention, or changed their ways. For whatever reason, there is often an assumption in us that this negative voice in the head must in some way be valuable. Otherwise – why would it be there?
We can unconsciously assume that perhaps the negative mind is helping us, keeping us safe, or keeping us disciplined or holding us accountable to mistakes we have made.
But in the end, negativity tends to do one thing:
Hold you back.
So, instead of being in any kind of battle with a negative mind (as the person who I was speaking to was), instead you can try this:
Ask the mind to ACTUALLY help you.
It is as simple as stopping and saying: “Ok, mind, it seems you are trying to help me in some way with this kind of thinking. So help me then. ACTUALLY HELP ME. Help me with this subject. Help me to progress and move forward. Give me real help.”
Then wait, and see what happens. Remain in this state of receptivity, asking for and expecting help.
It is almost as if you are calling the negative mind’s bluff. It is a disruptive presence within you, acting as if it is helping, so you give it a chance to ACTUALLY HELP.
During the one-to-one call with someone, when we did this, the first thought the person got was:
“Focus on things that you like.”
This was a different thought to the ones that she had recently been having. It was far more wise and positive.
I asked her to remain in that same state, saying “Ok, thank you, anything else?”
After a short while she began to receive other thoughts of herself in a much more pleasant state – relaxed, happy and less attached to negative thoughts. Considering that most of her recent thoughts were anxious ones, this was a step in the right direction.
It can be as simple as this. To remain in this state. Actually following the wise advice that comes from within you is also of great benefit. What sometimes happens is someone receives some form of higher guidance, but soon enough they are back under the influence of a negative or fearful mind.
The question the caller then asked me after seeing herself in a pleasant state, was:
“So how do I get in that kind of state where I feel relaxed and happy?”
My answer was:
“You don’t have to do anything differently. Remain in that same receptive state. Say ‘thank you’ for these pleasant visions of yourself, and then say: ‘anything else?’ This pleasant state that you can start to see will build momentum and enter your system more fully if you simply remain receptive to it. You don’t have to “do” it or create it as a personal task. It is already there. Remain receptive to it.”
And that’s it.
I hope that if you are dealing with a negative mind that pretends or believes it is helping you – you can actually surrender and ask it for real help, and see what happens. Either the negative mind will become quiet as it has nothing of value to actually say, or you begin to access the truest part of your mind that is indeed, actually helpful.
I hope this little practice is useful for you.
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All the very best,
Adam Oakley
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