Hello everyone,
I know it has been a while. I have been focused on some other things, including a new book that might be out by Christmas (for kids and grown-ups), and I haven't felt like creating any new posts.
But now, I feel like saying this:
People I speak with during one-to-ones are often thrown off by negative thoughts. They might be in a good place mentally, but a particular painful thought might keep coming back to nag them.
One of the best solutions is indifference.
If the negative thought pattern returns, it usually feels like a big deal. We are used to reacting against pain, it is natural to do so, so when a negative thought arises it can feel as if it messing up our inner world.
But what if you were indifferent to thoughts that didn't feel good? What if negative voices didn’t mean anything to you? What if you were indifferent as to whether they were there or not?
If you experiment with it, the indifference towards negative thoughts is quite powerful. It might not be an instant fix forever, but gradually, as negative thoughts come back and seem to want to cause a fuss, your lake of care towards them means they start to lose their disturbing power.
Once they have arisen, you probably feel you can’t make them un-arise. But with a lack of interest, a lack of importance given to them, a total indifference to whether they are there or not, you might start to find your balance, and more freedom if there is anything positive you are looking to focus on, even if you want your focus to be on the simple sense of "I Am", being, an affirmation, or even your breath.
You might notice that using this approach means thoughts in your head start to soften, and you might be left with an underlying uncomfortable emotion in your body. Treat that discomfort in the same way. Be indifferent as to whether it is there or not. And if you really want to transmute it faster, surround it with the unconditional energy of "thank you" within yourself.
Experiment with indifference to negative thoughts. Give it a day, and see what happens.
All the best,
Adam