Forgiveness can be made easier through asking yourself the question:
"If I was able to forgive or let go of this - then how would I feel?"
If you ask the question and feel for the response, and repeat this inner experiment, eventually you might reach a point where you are experiencing the freedom of forgiveness, without ever making the step to forgive and let go.
I hope this video helps in making forgiveness easier, which was taken from a one-to-one session with me.
During recent group Zoom meetings I have been asked if the desire for happiness or the desire to feel good implies resistance against negativity within ourselves.
"If I want to be happy, does that mean I am in resistance to unhappiness?"
I would say not necessarily. Happiness is a natural preference, in the same way that pleasant food is preferred over garbage. Once the fight against unhappiness or negativity starts to come to an end, there gradually becomes more space for us to choose a way to feel, if we want to do such a thing…
During a recent group Zoom meeting for inner peace, someone began asking about how to move out of negative self-stories. This led to a response about the mind ultimately seeking some sense of existence or security, and how this sense of security could be accessed directly in a much more enjoyable way. Then there is a segment about inner peace - how you can treat it as an infinite and abundant energy that is constantly around you and flowing through you, and you are either noticing it, or not...
Is reluctance to do some activity a signal from my inner being?
I have lots of moments of deep reluctance to do some activity. Take, for example, my blog writing. Or housework. Or exercise. At other times, there seems to be a willingness to do the same things. So I feel it's not the activity per se I am not ready to do. But I can't understand why I have these times of deep reluctance.
Hello everyone,
Someone suggested I share some examples of questions I answer during one-to-one sessions. My responses always reflect whoever I am talking to. Someone might be very into "spiritual" topics already, while someone else might just want a way to feel more free. Here is an example of someone who was already following a particular practice who wanted help. I hope it's useful...
I have one more, unrelated, question for you that has to do with regrets and making the same mistake over and over. Specifically, I am making the mistake of getting together with my ex even though I know he does not want anything serious. Even though every time I see him it hurts after, I never seem to think about it in the moment…
Hi Adam!
Can you do a post on insecurity? I am a female and constantly bombarded with pictures of models on social media and feel so worthless after. Even if I have a confident moment, it all goes downhill when I see someone my mind thinks looks better and it’s really hard to pull out of it when that happens.
Thank you!
I recently spent some time with my husband's family to attend a family event. I had some difficulty with one of his close family members. During our time together she kept me out of the conversation as if I was invisible, she never looked in my direction to totally ignored me.
How do I avoid feeling rejected and emotionally depleted in her company?
“My question is, I have overcome a lot from addiction, anxiety, self esteem and I owe it all to Buddhism and my practice of almost three years. As I approach my 3rd soberthday. I kind of feel like I read too many Buddhist books and that though I have come so far, I really haven't gotten anywhere, is that weird? In the midst of feeling so much better and waking up a little. I wonder if I've gotten anywhere at all. Your thoughts, please and thank you.”
"Hey Adam, I am more aware of my own body than I ever was before. However, it somehow scares me. I discover unpleasantness that I did not even know existed. For example, as I come to the present, I feel pain and I hear this noise in my head (a tinnitus) ... It almost feels as if I am creating all this myself, maybe by becoming aware but being scared/resistant to what is. Is that possible? I am somehow disappointed in myself when I realise that I am not accepting the unpleasant sensations..."
Hi Adam,
Love your site and your blog very much.
I want to ask you a question. I have been meditating for 35 years now so I am able to "stand apart" and watch my thoughts and feelings happen without attaching the self to them. I just feel them without resistance and let them pass. My doubt is about what happens after that.
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