How to let go of something that is troubling you? You just have to find out how it is helping you...
When I speak with people online, a common theme is that people experience a certain fear or behaviour or grievance that they wish to let go of, but for some reason, they can’t. They feel that now it is just uncomfortable, as if they don’t want to experience it any more, but somehow it keeps coming back and creating pain for them or holding them back. What is the solution?
Find out how your fear or limiting behaviour or thought pattern is actually helping you. Sit down and feel the energy, and ask what it does for you, or what it DID for you. Someone might be experiencing a huge fear of an upcoming exam. When asking why it is there, the answer they get inside is that it helps them to work harder and be more prepared…
We aren’t sure yet if that is really true, but we can only go with what comes up, so we assume it to be true for a moment…
If it is true that the fear is helping them to work harder and ultimately achieve a better result, then surely this energy should be thanked? Surely this energy is a useful, helpful thing that is not at all an enemy. The person can then directly thank the energy for helping them, for being a useful guide, and then a transformation starts to happen…
When a certain energy inside is no longer turned into an enemy, when it is no longer resisted and called such a bad thing, then suddenly it is no longer a problem. It is no longer some annoying thing that is always troubling you and wasting your energy. All of a sudden the hardness around it leaves, its sense of magnitude diminishes, and it is no longer a painful thing. It just is.
It might not disappear completely. Maybe it still has to act itself out a little bit, but because the relationship between “me” and “my thoughts” is no longer a destructive or conflicting one, then the sense of “me suffering this” diminishes, and you are left far more free than you were before. You don't have to worry about how to let go. The sense of burden will weaken once there is no longer a secret sense of trying to push it away from thinking it is bad.
If you are experiencing anything at all like this and would like one-to-one guidance or advice on how to let go, feel free to book a personal session with me on Skype or Facetime, and we can look more directly at whatever is troubling you so that it can be released. Click here to find out more and book a session.