After a recent video call session with a client, I thought I would share something that may help people dealing with any kind of painful or unwanted mental/emotional habits that might be coming up…
After a one-to-one session on Skype with somebody recently, here is an insight that others may benefit from:
Often as human beings we take it on ourselves to decide what our experience should be, and then strive to make that a reality. Perhaps it comes from more primal days, where we wanted food so went out and got it, or where we ere thirsty we went to drink, but when this deciding how we should feel and then striving towards it becomes an inner habit relating to thoughts and emotions, we can sometimes feel stuck in a tangled mess.
From this week's newsletter - For many of us, the challenges of life become far more deeply engrained in our minds as troubles, because in the background there is a secret assumption that the world should make us happy. If you don’t act the way I want, do what I think you should do, or if things don’t go exactly how I wanted them to go - if the assumption is that you or the world should make me happy - then I will suffer.
After a number of years in the making, I have a new book that is available to buy, either in paperback or as an ebook. It is a culmination of most of the themes touched on in this website, all weaved within short stories and adventure tales that make for an enjoyable read as well as a spiritual experience...
...Also, when you are experimental, and feel: "Oh yes, it would be great to not need approval from this person," - you can experience that freedom instantly, in less than a second. It is not a matter of time. It is not a letting go process. When you are playful, experimental, it is easy to let go of things easily, and see how it feels to be free of something you were holding on to. And then when we look to see if we are in any way hindeered by this uncovered, free flowing state, we see that we do not have to bring back those old stagnant energies ever again, because they have no use for us anymore...
If something ever “goes wrong”, the way we often get unconsciously conditioned, usually just by copying a parent or other people, is to say “No” to the thing going wrong. Then often we take action to fix it, but this action carries a sense of “No”, a sense of struggle or contraction or resistance. Whatever is done in this state of mind, creates more of itself. It impregnates things with its own energy, and can end up making things go even more “wrong” further down the line...
People might be asking how to let go of the past, how to let go of the future, how to let go of emotions, how to let go of thoughts, how to let go of anger, how to let go of pain, how to let go of someone you love, or how to let go of things that you feel are holding you back.
The simple question to ask, is whether these thoughts/feelings or the habit of clinging, is actually helping you. Does thinking about the situation that makes you angry, resolve the situation? Does being unhappy improve your life? Does the constant mental noise create good things? Does holding onto someone psychologically actually bring healing to any relationship?
"We are hindered and kept down in so many ways by believing that our thoughts are a literal representation of our circumstances, people, ourselves and things around us. It is an illusion. I say "banana", and you know what I am talking about, but the word "banana" is not what the thing is. In the same way, your thoughts about your mother or father or brother or sister or friends or foes or work or tasks or schedule or past or future or anything at all, are not what these things really are. It is an illusion. Thought is practical for survival, it is excellent as a creative tool, but to respond to the world with thoughts, and then believe that these thoughts are the things around you, means you can be trapped in a dream that you always thinking is real..."
A bird was flying across the sky. It landed on a lawn. The air was fresh, the breeze was light, and the sun was cool. The bird noticed someone crying in the distance, sitting on a lawn chair outside of a house.
When the crying had finished, the bird flew over to the person, who now looked corpse-like on the chair.
"What's happened?" chirped the bird.
"I'm not sure if I'll ever get the job I want," said the person, with a tone of resignation.