When my pain body tries to get a reaction and I don't respond, I then get this intense heat in the body and I sweat a lot.

But I am now realising how odd it is, and I don't believe in it as much as I used to. Then I'm the observer of it. Then the heat/sweating stops almost immediately.

But what does it mean? To me, I think it's as if the pain body is trying whatever it can to get a "explosive" reaction and it's not.

But, why intense heat????

“The secret of self confidence isn't to stop caring about what people think - it's about caring about what YOU think. It's to make your opinion of yourself more important than anyone else's.”

I came across this quote by Napoleon Hill recently and loved it, so thought I'd share. It's a reminder to not add any weight to any voices around you that try to bring you down or you feel hold you back in any way…

If you are dealing with any negative thought patterns, question whether or not they are serving you. What are they doing to help?

Recently during a one-to-one session, someone asked me how to deal with stress. A technique came up that was quite effective, and I hope it can help anyone here who is dealing with anything similar…

This week I thought I’d mention another way to deal with negative or intrusive thoughts.

Treat them as if they are negative friends – people who mean well and want the best for you, but people who you would be wise to stay away from and not listen to…

I hope this article helps to give you a quick and easy method for how to deal with negative thoughts and a negative mind, allowing you to access a part of your mind that can actually give rise to positive and empowering thoughts.

Hello everyone,

Recently during a one-to-one session I was speaking with someone about jealousy and the reason for it.

Jealousy is usually an ineffective attempt to get what we want. If someone has something that we want, but we think we don't have it, the jealous feeling can be an inner objection, like a child becoming upset if it doesn't get its own way, demanding that things change for the better.

Fear can often be in the background of our lives and go on unnoticed. A sense of uneasiness or insecurity can linger and can often create a tug of war between your natural desires or impulses and fears of what might happen if you do not get what you want…

This week I thought it might be useful to share a few words on nonresistance when it comes to inner peace...

To be in a state of nonresistance doesn't mean you have to grit your teeth and suffer any emotions. It just means you aren't pushing against yourself anymore; it means you aren't trying so hard to fix yourself into a certain frame of mind and struggling as a result.

In addition to last week’s article on self-acceptance, here is something for anyone who deals with social anxiety or a feeling of inferiority around others:

A lot of insecurity can come from approaching a situation and trying to meet someone where they are, or where you think they are in terms of how they feel about you.

From very early on we are trained to get validation and approval and love from other people. It feels good when people are shining good energy on to you, it feels nice, and it helps to ease any resistance you have against yourself. Unfortunately, people can be fickle, their minds can change, and at the drop of a hat, they can suddenly find you less acceptable, or even unlikable, and you might be left waiting for someone’s permission to let down the barriers to loving or accepting yourself once again.

Someone asked me a question recently about the habit of worrying abut loved ones - knowing logically that they are fine but having uncontrollable negative thoughts of worrying about their safety…

I have one more, unrelated, question for you that has to do with regrets and making the same mistake over and over. Specifically, I am making the mistake of getting together with my ex even though I know he does not want anything serious. Even though every time I see him it hurts after, I never seem to think about it in the moment…

Hi Adam!

Can you do a post on insecurity? I am a female and constantly bombarded with pictures of models on social media and feel so worthless after. Even if I have a confident moment, it all goes downhill when I see someone my mind thinks looks better and it’s really hard to pull out of it when that happens.

Thank you!

I have been following your newsletter for a long time and I really like your work, 

I need actually help on dealing with my mental health, I need help on dealing with stress, anxiety and Bulimia. 

Hello everyone,

Here's a short video I made about the emotional "pain body", and how it can get worse once we start to become aware of it…

How do you really forgive a parent who acted like your own worst enemy? How do you really ever forgive that? Or move on from that?

How much do we really need the resistance that we carry around in our day-to-day lives?

Questioning the usefulness of some of our mental/emotional habits can be a quick way to expose what no longer needs our support....

A few weeks ago I shared a few words on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. They said:

"Think about how much you’ll care what others think of you when you’re dead, or when they’re dead. Then carry on."

If we are liked, we tend to feel safer. We feel as if we are a more valuable part of a group, and if we are more valuable, we are less likely to be in danger…

I recently wrote an article on mental health for the charity “Youth Mental Health Matters”, who work with young people in the UK. I hope this is useful for everyone’s mental health…

For example, letting yourself feel annoyed is far more helpful than hating yourself for feeling annoyed or fighting your own annoyance. If we give ourselves permission to feel however we are feeling rather than condemning the feelings, then suddenly there is some more space, the feelings don't seem quite so harsh or heavy, and the suffering decreases….

I have a question if it's OK to ask, question being when feeling great energy related to anxiety I just say to myself I'm just going to allow this energy to pass through me and then relax into and visualise the passing through and out of me. What are your thoughts on this. Thank you…

I mostly encounter my painbody in interaction with other people, for example when communication gets tense or someone talks to me in an angry way, that seems to trigger old pain immediately and my 'harmed ego' shoots into reaction. Mostly that leads to a reaction from the other party and things can then easily escalate.

Finding out how to feel better can come from a very simple, playful question…

Here’s a simple trick to actually make yourself feel better if you are feeling bad in any way…

This week I thought I would share something on dealing with regret, inspired by a quote from my children's book "A Tale Of Two Ninja Kids: A Martial Arts Adventure Story".

In the book, one of the main characters, Martin, questions his ninja master on how someone can deal with regrets in life...

Relationship is everything. If there is conflict with anxiety, then you feel a victim. If there is forgiveness, a realisation that it is trying to keep you safe, then suddenly you are bigger than the anxiety, and perhaps the anxiety doesn’t require your conflict anymore…

When people move on to any kind of spiritual or self-help path, emotions such as anger can become unconsciously resisted even more, because they are seen as energies that shouldn’t be there...

Unforgiveness is a way to try to stop something equally bad happening in the future. We don’t want to be wronged again, and holding on to hostility is often a way we are taught to try to resolve the situation, or hold the other person accountable so that they won’t do it again…