How To Stop Worrying About People
Hello everyone,
Someone asked me a question recently about the habit of worrying abut loved ones - knowing logically that they are fine but having uncontrollable negative thoughts of worrying about their safety.
I will leave out the details of the question for now since I have not asked the person’s permission to share, but here was my response:
IT IS OK. The painful thoughts are attempts to keep your loved ones safe. There is an underlying belief that our negativity can help us to fix things into the way we want them. Also the thoughts you experience will feel so scary that it is just a natural response for there to be another reflex of resistance, an attempt to keep the danger away.
My advice for now would be to call the thoughts' bluff, so to speak. They feel very threatening and dangerous and real, so there is resistance, a fight inside, and they survive.
Instead of trying to fix them, see if it's possible to offer them no resistance, while realising that they are a play of imagination. Look at the wall while the threats come into your head and try to steal your attention. They are like people that want to come and engage in an argument with you. If you lose your interest in them, they will lose interest in you.
Notice that you might believe that they are helping you or warning you of bad things. If you believe they are reliable protectors in some way, you will always keep them around.
Notice that they are like prayers for bad things to happen, they are dense energies that pretend to be producing their opposite.
Go to the intelligence of your heart as soon as you sense them looming. Ask you heart what it think about all of this. Ask God or the Universe what it thinks about all of this. This is a a way to access your higher intelligence, the intelligence that is on a much higher frequency than fear.
A final note is that if it's fully realised that these thoughts are attempts to actually promote safety in some way, then they can be fully embraced without resistance. If they are embraced without resistance, their fearful and negative quality, coming from feeling separated from their source, will begin to dissolve.
I hope that can help if you are experiencing anything similar.
All the best,
Adam