Question:
Hi Adam,
I wanted to let you know how much your Pain Body letter helped me, I reread it often and have forwarded it to friends. Are there any other things I can be doing to help myself not worry so much about my husband finding a job? I meditate, do yoga and exercise. I’m trying to live presently but struggle because I just want this to “be over”. I would love some inner peace right now. Oddly, I’m most anxious in the morning and feel calmer at night.
Thanks Adam
Response:
Hi,
Thanks for letting me know the article helped you.
For your husband's situation, the best thing you can do is make sure you are focussing on what you want rather than what you don't want.
The emotional pain comes from focussing on the unwanted and then resisting it. This is natural us, to notice the absence of something and then fight against it to try to stop it from happening. It's how we get taught to live. But it's not very effective. The way to create change is to see the futility of resisting what you don't want, and instead ease yourself into the feeling of what you do want. How would it feel for the job situation to be stable and secure? How would it feel to have a greater income? You can generate the feelings before anything changes, and if you can stop waiting for the condition to change before you feel better, then things will improve faster.
Focussing on the unwanted locks you into that reality. If you can find ways to unlock yourself from your unwanted situation and instead focus on ANYTHING that makes you feel more secure/grateful/happy, then the energy you emit starts to shift, and if this remains consistent, then things around you start to shift to match your new energy/signal.
It can be a process. If any of this resonates with you, I highly recommend listening to Abraham Hicks on YouTube.
Resistance is what causes suffering. The pain is a signal from your true self that you are out of alignment with who you truly are, that's all. It shows you the thoughts are not trustworthy, because they feel bad.
Open yourself up to receive greater thoughts, higher thoughts of what is truly possible for you and your husband. The trick is staying there consistently, so you can FEEL the secure job before it has fully materialised around you.
Does that help?
Adam