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This week’s issue was about our expectations of the world, and what we think the world should be doing for us.
For many of us, the challenges of life become far more deeply engrained in our minds as troubles, because in the background there is a secret assumption that the world should make us happy. If you don’t act the way I want, do what I think you should do, or if things don’t go exactly how I wanted them to go - if the assumption is that you or the world should make me happy - then I will suffer. I may fix the situation, but a similar thing is bound to resurface again, perhaps because I have not resolved it on an inner level.
Notice the assumptions that you have about the world. What are you unconsciously asking of it? Is there a belief that you need things to be a certain way so that you can feel safe or happy? I’m not referring to trying to be blissed-out before jumping out of a plane, or trying to be happy while someone is trying to abuse you. We will not deal with the extremes of physical danger for the moment. What we can look at is the general background assumption, from day to day, that the world should make you happy.
Can you notice it? What happens when you notice it? Is there some kind of release? Can it be relaxed? And then what happens when it is relaxed? Do you suddenly become inactive as the mind suggests or predicts you will be? You may indeed be less reactive, but spontaneous intelligence can flow through you far easier, without you needing to practice or rehearse what you will say or do before events actually take place.
When the tight energetic expectation that the world needs to make you happy is noticed and relaxed, it is far more easy to notice the peace that already dwells inside of you, and at the same time, life can take care of itself, sometimes through you, sometimes not, all the while without making any of it personal.
Here is an excerpt from my new book which touches on this. Whilst trying to cut down a renewable plant source to make paper with, Dr Bernard J Hoothfellow (the main character) is educated by the Treekeeper on why these plants are so difficult for him to harvest with a sickle:
"This often happens with human beings," the Treekeeper said, sitting down himself and putting his sickle gently by his side.
"You see, they don’t realise that everything is a reflection of themselves. The way you get trained to think, is that everything around you should yield to you, be there for you, do what you want, and that it doesn't matter how you treat the things, what signal you send out, how you handle the things that you want to go well for you.
"You treat the world like it owes you something. Some kind of happiness, some kind of product, something to make you feel good. So you go around, feeling bad, hoping that feeling bad enough of the time will bring you something good. But nature doesn’t work like that. The plants, everything reflects you. If you approach them aggressively, harshly, hastily, then they will reflect that back to you. It's not like they are deciding to do it, it's just how nature works. It's like a built-in mechanism. They treat me the way I treat them. It's simple. And when I'm not expecting anything of them, when I am grateful and loving and appreciative of them, of just being around them, they fall in love with me, because I’ve already fallen for them.
“The trap is that you think there is no real link between the two of you, and you think that the more you resist, the more things will work. But nothing works through resistance. When there is no resistance then things work better, more smoothly. What happens with people is that the plants reflect their rigidity right back to them, and then they think that it is the plant’s fault, not theirs, so they get even harsher, and harsher, more and more resistive, trying to fix the solution, never realising that it is only ever a reflection of themselves. They are not separate from the plants, and neither are you. In fact, you ARE the plants, and that’s why they treat you the way you treat them. Really, you are one."
Sometimes we can be waiting for things to change so that we can stop holding such dense thoughts about the world. Is it possible to be without such troubling thoughts? Is it possible?
None of this is to say that you should suppress yourself in any challenging situation, acting as if you don’t deserve anything of value. But what it does mean is that you no longer feel mentally enslaved to the situation, and there is space for solutions to emerge.
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