In addition to last week’s article on self-acceptance, here is something for anyone who deals with social anxiety or a feeling of inferiority around others:
A lot of insecurity can come from approaching a situation and trying to meet someone where they are, or where you think they are in terms of how they feel about you.
I mostly encounter my painbody in interaction with other people, for example when communication gets tense or someone talks to me in an angry way, that seems to trigger old pain immediately and my 'harmed ego' shoots into reaction. Mostly that leads to a reaction from the other party and things can then easily escalate.
A common discomfort for people is caring too much what others think of them. Other people's opinions start to become a big deal. Here is a possible solution.
Usually how we fear to be judged by others, is simply a mirror of how we have already judged ourselves. If we believe something about ourselves, and if we don’t like this belief, if we resist it or aren’t comfortable with it, then we will fear other minds believing the same thing too...
One of the biggest underlying causes of social anxiety can be the belief or feeling that a certain outcome will mean that "I" will die. Not physically, but psychologically.
If the whole room is judging you in a certain way, or laughing at you for something, it is easy to feel as if you are shrinking down to nothing without your old identity to rely on anymore. We feel as if something like that will mean we will lose who we are, as if we are dying in some way. And that can be scary...
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